There are many important things you should always keep in mind when going into the lifestyle.
Do not start swinging if any, you or your partner do not want to swing.
Do not go into swinger lifestyle if you are not sure of what you wish or how strong is really your relationship. Swinger lifestyle needsgood communication more than any other thing.
Couples in swinging lifestyle must be confident and capable of talking in an open way.
Swinger Lifestyle Common Practices
Soft swinging: Is a couple watching another couple while both having sex. This may include some shared foreplay, usually oral sex yet no vaginal penetration or intercourse will occur. Soft swinging is intended to be a turn on for couples and only to spice things up a little and to have fun. Lots of new swinging couples first tried with this modality of swinging before jumping to full swinging (open swinging or closed swinging).
Closed swinging:This is very common and it is called "wife swapping" and it takes place when two couples exchange partners for having sex in different rooms. By closed swinging both partners in a couple have an intimate experience. It is usual swinger couples to practice this since there's less chance of being interrupted.
Open swinging:consists in couples swapping and having sex in the same room at the same time and even on the same bed. This implies orgies and it its a good chance for some exhibitionism and voyeurism. Open swinging is a complete and total release for mind and body since you let it all go, any sexual fantasy or desire. However for open swinging to be enjoyable no one in the group should be jealous.
Swingers are healthy people: and you too should be as well. Practice safe sex and keep yourself disease free. Even when most swingers are healthy people there are always some ones that are not. Nobody is totally free of risks but you can judge yourself.
Arrive early or at least on time. It's not fashionable to turn up late to parties, as the night may have already got underway, and may it be people who have already began feel awkward walking in late, it may also be harder for others to fit in.
If you're arriving late give the party host a ring and check with them, they may update him/her on how the night is going so he/she may walk straight into it. Be polite.
This is an obvious one, don't take any one to a swinger party who doesn't know what is going on, it is very embarrassing for everyone, and probably may cause problems. Do not be pushy, if one fancies swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and hurtful. If they decide not to swing with you, do not carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this may do a lot more harm than good.
Alcohol. Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform to get to know other swingers, it may also help anyone relax. Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder for physical and mental performance, and is a turnoff for many people. If anyone need to drink heavily to participate in the party this isn't the lifestyle for him/her.
Practice safe sex It is up to every swinger to protect his/her self and his/her partner. The use of condoms should not offend anyone, it is not saying one is dirty, it is simple a means to protect all swingers involved.
Enjoy yourself probably the most important one, approach everything with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy yourself.
What to Bring
Unlike other events and/or parties where you usually just bring yourself, at a lifestyle event it is strongly encouraged to bring other items with you to accompany your experience. The following is a basic list of items you should bring with you during an event: Condoms (both latex and non-latex)